Showing posts with label disrespect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label disrespect. Show all posts

Discrimination vs. Aggravation

When I came back from Colombia, I had six hours and one place to go...the police station. The thought did cross my mind, "Do I really have to stop there?" "Can't I just get some food and relax before my flight?"
Instead of following my gut feeling, I just decided to dive into more disrespect and attitude. The reason for my visit came from a small lost bag including a necklace, bracelet, and some headphones. It was lost or stolen near the small market in this area of town(not a great area), but close to the church.  Anything lost or stolen has to have documentation according to my travel insurance. So, I figured I could go inside and get a report and be finished with Panama law enforcement....no.   

Now when it comes to foreign cops, I am usually pretty good with talking to them.  This was the case when I arrived in the police station. There I was making my report-happy, smiling, and making jokes. The police officers were respectful, kind, and concerned-two men specifically.  They asked me each and every detail and I provided clear answers to the best of my knowledge. The cops were all their in some training and were eating food.  They offered me a box and we were sitting and eating together. 

A short man comes in named Manny. He is suddenly in love and starts making this inappropriate gestures and I am laughing it off.  Everyone is laughing it off. It's just funny as he bent down on his knee and asked me to marry him when he's already married. He offered me a ride to the airport and clearly I declined. 



His entertainment made me smile and forget about Panama men being arrogant and rude. Instead of helping out, he just left and said, "Good luck." 

When those two men were writing my report, I thought I would be out the door in five minutes. My acting debue was finished and I wanted to eat something and leave-that's it.  
These two guys tell me that this is a special case so I need to be taken to a different office. From the get go, it starts off bad with these two officers. They are confrontational with huge egos present in every inch of their body language. The current police officers said, "Don't worry these guys will take good care of you and get you what you need."  The four guys all waived goodbye and I stared out the window watching things slowly go downhill.  

When we arrived at the office with no documentation, the man asked me to repeat everything again.

"But the two men already wrote everything down." Pris

"And I just said Again." Officer


So that is what I did I went over all the details again and he told me I needed a police report.

Well that is why I went there to get a police report. Until he said, you have to go to another office. This is a total of two hours at this point.  Then in destination three it reached three hours. There is some priority for an American, but when they people behind the desk sees you are one-all time stops. 


Now, a new breeze was coming in my direction- a fresh female gust of wind. She was not happy to see me and she did not want to help me.

It did occur to me, "Do I really need to go through all this?
 Just leave and go to the airport!"

Sometimes it feels like I enjoy being a masochist pushing myself to the core to see how strong I can be.  
This lady was annoyed with my presence and asked me about the details of the incident. It takes her 15 minutes to get to the counter and then she is just standing there with no response to questions and completely rude. Standing next to two male cops, this her opportunity to prove her female authority in front of them.  When she asks for the date, I tell her it was seven days ago. She throws my sheet to the side, shakes her head and says, "That's not possible-it's too late."

I say, "But I just spent three hours to get a report and the guys at the original station took the report and accepted it.  She has her back turned to me at this point and I am becoming very upset with this behavior(this is the worst way to get to me) by not acknowledging me at all. 

This time I did not stay quiet and respectful, but I spoke up for myself. "You can not treat people like that just because you are trying to prove yourself." It's very sad that you have to act this way." I said nothing more and I stormed out feeling angry and disappointed. I put my trust into these people again and they completely wasted my time, really? 

In my opinion, it was possible, but she chose to exercise her authority with the "Princess American."  
This felt just like Morocco, which is again why I cried for the second time on my trip all over this Panama treatment. It was so uncalled for and unjust. They crossed the line from kind to ignorant and self centered.

There are other examples where I feel this discrimination from them as if they don't like Americans at all.
When I was at a restaurant in the airport, there was another incident where the waitress was ignoring me and serving all the locals. With this taste of discrimination, I thought about
what it feels like for a person of color or different ethnicity experiencing discrimination.


It's such an awful feeling when you are in a culture with such disregard and disrespect towards your being.  You feel like the outsider and oh what a feeling it is. It's like God gives me these experiences for growth.


Clearly I live in America in a diverse city where I hardly experience discrimination, but when abroad I learn about what it's like. Everything is a learning experience- everything. It's a set up by God to push my own limits to learn to the maximum to assist others better.


Of course these experiences may bring up different feelings like anger, disappointment, feeling annoyed, or exhausted. This is the normal range of feelings and

The Americans will tip and you don't even serve them-not cool and not okay.
 
 

Are you Colombian?


Are you Colombian?

In the Hard Rock, there are all kinds of nationalities of staff. But the main two are locals from Panama and Colombians. Many Colombians come over to work in Panama City- not quite vice versa. 


Staying at the hotel for three days, I became very friendly with most of the staff. There were some presenting the “Panama attitude” and I tried to engage with them, but it went south. After a couple people, I just allowed them to continue on with their unfriendly ways.


When you need something, receiving food service, or housekeeping-the Colombians are smiling and happy to help you. They are always making you laugh, free-spirited, good workers, helpful, and caring.
 

One would think that the Panama locals would learn something from this happy and positive behavior. Unfortunately, they just remain cold and rude.  My friend Marco felt horrible because he said I was meeting the wrong Panama locals.


Again, I met nice ones, but most presented with attitude or with arrogance.  Of course, I did not get to meet all of Panama, but that was my observation.  The border experience did have a negative impact on my belief system, but I still remained objective. 


When it came to my interaction, I started to ask, “Where are you from?” They would say Colombia and I scored a point. After the first day, I didn’t need to ask anymore because I knew if they were from Colombia.
After studying their differences in behavior, it was clear who was Colombian even the reserved ones because they had good manners. I would share with the Colombians that I love how positive and kind they are and I appreciate it.  When I asked they what they thought about the Panama locals, they presented with negative body expression and no comment.  They would laugh and agree with me! “Yeah they are not good with people.” “They are not happy people.”


The Colombians did not favor them either and they had their own personal experience to influence their thinking or beliefs. Colombians have many things going right for them, especially their happiness, looks, spirit, and personality(oh I guess that is everything;)

Lip to Lip

My apologies for those who thought this post was about something romantic and sappy. It's definitely neither of the two.

When it comes to "Lip to Lip," this expression I have coined for someone to close their mouth.  This girl had her mouth running with no respect for anyone. The two guys she was with did not even say a word. 

She did not want my advice so I sat in the front and said nothing to her.  Of course I used my sarcasm talking to the guys saying, "I'm so sorry that you guys have to stay up so late because people are unprepared." She didn't say much because she knew she was in the wrong.  The drivers are suppose to drop you off at one location not run around looking for a place all night.  They are actually doing you a huge favor driving around and wasting gas looking for a place for you.

The icing on the cake was that she didn't want to spend money so she had to stay at a $6 budget and she wanted breakfast too...Wow.   
No consideration or caring to the fact that it's now 1145 and people need their sleep.
After five places, she finds one that suites her needs. It's a complete dump and looks like they would have bed bugs. I wouldn't stay there if someone paid me.  Clearly, the guys had no say and they were just following her lead(her poor boyfriend). 

Clearly it was not time to connect with the cute Argentinian after all this drama.  "Bye, nice meeting you..." There goes another cute Argentinian guy yikes!

I purposely made myself the last stop. Could you imagine if I had to stay with her in the same place?
She would never spend $20 a night so that wouldn't happen.

At this point, we had another parking guy in the car who was helping to find places. Apparently, the drivers don't know there way around Leon.  This old man is a complete angel and I was so appreciative to him.  He was just helping from his heart(not for money), but I gave him $5. You have to reward those who do good in a humble, kind manner. Why?
Because you want them to keep on doing it...


Moral to this adventure:
Be good to people and they will be good to you.